Satisfying everyone can be tricky

How much do you let others make you feel bad about yourself? Everything starts from what you believe for yourself and for what you are doing. If you are not sure about the choices you have made, then your parents, for example, will make you feel bad. Basically the people that disagree with our choices are usual our closest ones, that love us. Why is that? Because they have made a dream for us, without asking us, even without knowing what makes us happy.

You should know that whatever you do, some people will have complains from you. You cannot satisfy everyone, you can satisfy some people. Begin by satisfying your dreams. If you have a dream to be a doctor and you need to study, you cannot choose to go back to the house and live with your mother because she feels lonely. You could do that, if your dream was to keep people company and be happy with that. Don't let other influence you in the way you have chosen to live your life. There are different point of views. It doesn't mean yours is wrong, or anyone else's. It is just different. Different does not mean bad. Save energy by focusing on what you want and give your best to it.

The more you give the more you get

Someone told me once that I am too selfish that I cannot look over my nose. I thought my problems were bigger than anyone's else, that I am very weak and everyone should support me. I used to feel bad about myself and I couldn't solve my problems because they seemed huge to me. I was always tired and disatisfied with what I am doing. Everything was going wrong and I expected people to understand my situation and show love to me.

Start thinking of others and your problems will seem tiny and you will find the courage to overcome them. Listen to others and their problems and try to help them. Most of the time, when we have a problem we cannot listen to others because we feel weak. Believe me, if you try to listen you will help yourself too. Concentrate on how you can help others instead of concentrating on how to help yourself and you will find your problems solved in no time.

Be generous as much as you can. Whatever you give you will get back. This is the law of nature. Don't expect to receive first in order to give. This will not happen. Try your best to understand others and make them believe in themselves. Try thinking about that they are more important than you are.

If you want to be happy

"If you want to be happy desire what you have and not what you don't have"

This means that you have to train yourself to be satisfied with the situation you are now. Love the job you have now, love the boyfriend or girlfriend you have now, love the parents you have and don't desire what you miss. We humsns have a natural habit to desire what we can't have and when we have it we are not happy even then. We feel intrigued by the impossible, by the life of someone else but not by our own circumstances. We live in a cloud thinking about what we don't have. "What if I had this job, what if I had been married, what if I haven't been married.....etc" Who trained us like that? Who is responsible for this "never satisfied" personality. When we are sick we say, all I want to be healty. When we are healthy, we say why don't I have this car, or this job, or this friend?

Don't wait to lose something to know what is worth. Think about it earlier and appreciate this very situation you are in. This doesn't mean that you should stop fighting for a better future. Appreciation is not opposite of dreams. It is the first step to a better life.

Take a few moments at the end of the day to ask yourself this simple question: "What can I rightly feel proud of today?" If you are committed to constant self-improvement, you can also ask yourself, "What could I do better tomorrow?" Both questions hold your value.

A little lie did not harm anyone

Hello my friends,

tomorrow is a big day.. I had a call from a clothes company that I gave my resumate to and they told me to go tomorrow for a trial. I had to lie to go there. I have never worked in a shop with clothes before and I told them I have worked for a whole year. It is not that bad to lie if it does not harm anybody. Isn't it? A little lie never harmed anyone.

From a philosophical point of view whatever you do, you find it in your way (karma). Sooner or later I would have to pay the price for this lie. Just whenever someone is lieing he should weigh the consiquences and he should know if it is worth it. Better say nothing than a lie.

10 things I need to tell you

1. Do one generous act every day
2. Tell someone you love him/her
3. Appreciate what you have around you
4. Think that there is always someone somewhere that is inspired by you
5. You are a very important person with alot of virtues
6. Help someone you don't even know
7. Find a virtue of a person around you and tell him/her about it.
8. Say thank you to someone.
9. Forgive someone who hurt you and forget about it.
10. Find one thing you are good at and do it more often.

Duty contains love

I have this project that I am doing mistakes all the time. I find it difficult to handle and I am trying really hard to accomplish it. I am really good at doing what I have to do. I am good with deadlines and people can trust me at work. Something though is missing and this is the reason why I am making the same mistakes.

What is missing is love and real interest. Is it possible to make your work interesting and love it? It is like cooking. If you don't put love in it, it will not be tasty. The energy is flat and the result is flat as well. I had this idea that when it comes to a job, you don't have to love it, you just need to get it done. It is not true though. How many times you have heard people or yourself saying "I am trying my best and it is not working!" Trying without love is the same as not trying at all.

So, if you have to be good at something, even in a relationship, all you need to do is create love for the situation or the person and the effort you will need to put will be less than you imagine to make it work.

Try it...

Dislike or personality test?

There is this person at work that I can't stand seeing. I have tried all the ways. I have tried to avoid him, I have tried to be a friend and have tried to be an enemy. None of these is working. I'm still bothered from his behaviour. I am now at a point that I am doing as if he doesn't exist and I don't care what he will think.

So what are the characteristics that bother me? Hipocrisy, arrogance, "teacher's pet". People around us and especially the ones that makes us angry are a mirror of us. What do I mean by that? The defects that we see in other people are the ones that we have. This means I am hipocritic, arrogant and teacher's pet, or exactly the opposite. Exactly the opposite is the same. The two edges are connected. For example, I am not the teacher's pet with my boss, but I don't talk to him at all. It is the same thing. I am trying to make a difference. Opposite ways, same result though.

I have once read in a book.. "There was this man that talked to God and said.." why God do you send me all the wrong women for me? My previous girlfriend cheated on me, this girlfriend is a lier, why does this happen to me all the time? And God answers "I am doing to best I can to show you your mistakes but you don't seem to get any lessons, so until you learn who you are and see your own mistakes you will get a repetition of this class."

Instead of complaining about our luck maybe we need to see what does the other person has to show us. If we pass the test we will not have the same problem again.What is the test? You have to find out yourself..